• DO tell your children you love them and will always love them.
  • DO tell your children mom and dad will always take care of them.
  • DO assure your children mom and dad will always be their parents, even though they may not be married any more.
  • DO comfort your children. Tell them there will be happy times and sad times, but soon we will all be happier.
  • DO tell your children the truth about what is happening in age-appropriate language.
  • DO tell your children you want to know how they feel. Their feelings are important to both mom and dad.
  • DO share your feelings with your children without expecting them to solve your problems.
  • DO work on a relationship with your former spouse for the children’s sake. Although the marriage has failed, the divorce can be successful.
  • DO maintain an active relationship with your children. Remember, you are the adult.
  • DO keep promises to your children and be on time. Children of all ages need security.
  • DO fun things together.
  • DO let your children know mom and dad each have a home. Tell them they will have a place in both homes.
  • DO hug your children. Tell them and show them you love them.
  • DON’T question children after their visits with the other parent.
  • DON’T force your children to take sides between parents or become messengers between parents.
  • DON’T ask children to make adults decision, such as who to invite to the graduation ceremony.
  • DON’T lie to your children.
  • DON’T drop out of your children’s lives. They will always need you.
  • DON’T expect children to readily accept changes in their lives without considering their feelings too.

Adapted from Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci, and Rainbow For All GOD’S Children, Schaumburg, Ill