This web site is a continuation of that process and hopefully will help the children and their parents through the difficult custody litigation process. We will feature articles, blogs, bibliographies of books and articles and other resources for all family members to read.

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Letter to Children

Dear Children of Divorcing Parents, I am sure that you were all told by your parents that the divorce was or is not your fault. Some of you understand this but I bet a whole bunch of you are not so sure. Maybe you hear or heard your parents fighting about things that you did […]

Should Children Read Books Dealing with Separation and Divorce?

When a couple decides separate or divorce, they must deal with many difficult issues. They usually are not familiar with the legal system and nor the many steps involved in the very emotional process. Children, too, are not familiar with such terms as separation,divorce, judge, court, custody, and visitation. I believe one of the ways […]

children learn what they live dorothy law nolte (1954)

Children Learn What They Live

  • If children live with criticism they learn to condemn.
  • Children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
  • If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
  • If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
  • If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
  • If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
  • If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
  • If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
  • If children live with acceptance, they learn to like themselves.
  • If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
  • If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
  • If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
  • If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
  • If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
  • If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
  • If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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I am pleased to let everyone know that the IRS has determined that Helping Kids Of Divorce a non - profit corporation is exempt  from federal income tax (47-3486321). ( Internal Revenue Code Sec. 501 (c) (3). ) Donors can deduct contributions under IRC section 170. The corporation is also qualified to receive tax deductible bequests, devises, transfers or gifts under sections 2055 , 2106, or 2522.

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Thank you,

Joseph P. Testa ,JSC ( Ret)